Rho Tau Newsletter
September, 2000
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| Lucy's Window - SPICE 2000 | Heather's Counseling Experience |
| SCC 2000 !!! | Selecting the Appropriate Wig |
By Lucy Stone
My Experience at S.P.I.C.E. 2000
When Joan and I headed for Houston to attend S.P.I.C.E. 2000 in July, we were hopeful that we could help others, but we were confident that any issues between us concerning cross-dressing had been worked out a long time ago. We had decided to attend after conversations with Peggy Rudd, Jane Ellen Fairfax and several others during the Dignity Cruise last fall. Peggy asked us to make ourselves available to help others who were having difficulty with cross-dressing issues.
I was not particularly looking forward to attending the lectures on communications and self esteem building because I have been through such lectures under the guise of management development several times in my career, but I knew it was a necessary part of the process. Similarly, Joan also had been subjected to communications and esteem building activities over the years, and she too was not greatly enthusiastic about attending the workshops. However, once the conference began we both realized how wrong we had been.
It was a wonderful conference. Even senior citizens like us found that we could benefit. And would you believe it, we found an unresolved issue. My discomfort surfaced during one of the early men’s workshop sessions when the subject of buying en homme clothes came up. There was general agreement that this is something that none of us was enthusiastic about doing. The president of the Orlando chapter of Tri-Es said that she had found the best way to shop for her drab clothing was to do it en femme. It gave her an excuse to go shopping en femme, something many of us like to do, and at the same time, she could accomplish an otherwise uninspiring task. Besides she has the best appreciation for the right sizes, preferred colors and fabrics and budget limitations. The clincher came when the session moderator pointed out that when we dress en femme we are dressing for ourselves, but when we dress en homme we are dressing primarily for our wives.
That evening, Joan and I were comparing notes, and she mentioned that one of the common complaints in the women’s sessions was that none of their significant others liked to shop for their every day clothing, and she added this was also something that bothered her. She pointed out that the primary reason we never discussed the issue is that I had built up an elaborate set of subterfuges for avoiding it. Then, she provided me a few examples, and I had to concede she was definitely right. And I was definitely vulnerable because the memory of what our session moderator had said earlier in the day pushed my guilt button. At that moment, I was very glad that my colleague from Florida had provided me a strategy for handling a task that I always avoided as long as possible. I am certain that the Florida solution to the buying drab clothing will work for me. But even if you don't think shopping en femme in a men's clothing department is for you, you'll have to agree it is one way of discouraging the over eager salesman working on commission who otherwise might be trying to sell you a new suit.
So how do I feel about S.P.I.C.E. now? I think it is a conference for everyone. Even smug old hands like us, should attend at least once. And I am convinced that CDs benefit as much as wives and significant others. For a wife or SO to fully benefit, particularly in critical areas such as communications skills and relationship building, it appears to me that it would be helpful if, at the same time, her partner also improved his capability in these critical areas.
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by Heather
Those of you who attended the September meeting had the opportunity to meet Rusty Lynn, a
gender identification specialist counselor from Northern Virginia. Rusty has been my
counselor for the past 4 months and came to our September meeting as a result of my
suggestion to him and some wonderful follow-up by our entertainment chairperson(s).
From the comments that were overheard after Mr. Lynn’s presentation, it is my opinion
that most of you were very impressed with him. Having had first hand experience with
Rusty, I thought I would submit this article to relate how I came to find Rusty and
provide some personal insights gained from my sessions with him.
About a year ago after discovering the internet and realizing that “I am not
alone”, I made my decision to fully explore my feminine side. I searched out
and investigated many support groups before I decided to join Tri-Ess (for the obvious
reasons). I then had a long discussion with my wife and explained my decision to
join Tri-Ess and expand my exploration of my feminine persona. To say the least my
wife was not exactly thrilled with my decision, in fact, we fought bitterly for almost two
months before she allowed me to attend one meeting to “try it out”. One of
the conditions of my attendance was that I must seek professional counseling so that I
could be “cured of my sickness”.
I called several local counseling services and finally decided on a service located in my
hometown. During my first visit to this counselor it became evident that I did not
make the right choice. He admitted to me that he had no experience in the field of
gender identity. His questions to me indicated that he had pre-diagnosed me as a
“sicko” and that in fact, he was going to attempt to “cure me” of my
evil desires.
Over the next few months I continued to see him (mostly out of curiosity and amusement).
During this period my wife began to put more and more restrictions on my
opportunities to express myself. I was begining to feel like I was trapped in a box
and that the box was getting smaller and smaller on a daily basis. At this point, I
realized that maybe I really did need someone to talk to. However, the person I
needed to talk to had to be someone who had an real understanding of what I was going
through and, more basically, what I was saying. I began my search for a new
counselor!
I started by calling a local Dr. referral service…no luck. I then called the
Richmond area Dr. referral service. They referred me to UVA and the Medical Coll. of
Va….again no luck. I next tried a Dr. referral service located in Northern Va.
They referred me to the same type of service in Washington D.C. During all
these phone calls I was also frantically searching the web (without success) for
additional leads. The referral service in D.C. suggested I call John Hopkins Medical
Center. I found that this center actually had a department dedicated to sexual
identity. The department is actually a subset of their gynecology and endocrinology
departments. They referred me to counselor in the Baltimore area. I called her
to set up an appointment. When she returned my call, she recommended that I contact
Rusty Lynn insofar as he was a good hour closer to my home.
That, in a nutshell, is how I came to find Rusty…Whew!!!
My initial contact with Rusty was over the phone when I called to schedule my first
appointment. I briefly explained my circumstances and my urgent need for additional
guidance. He assured me that he had extensive experience with individuals who shared
my concerns and that my current situation, while unique to me, was not the first such
situation that he had encountered. Insofar as my concern was with Heather, he
encouraged me to attend my sessions with him as Heather (who can refuse an invitation to
get dressed!). I felt very comfortable going to my initial appointment with him.
To change counselors, I had told my wife that my current counselor had admitted to me that
he was out of his league with my situation and that he had referred me to Rusty.
My counseling session with Rusty confirmed that he was indeed well worth the trouble that
it took me to locate him. He did not meet me with a handshake, but rather a hug.
He referred to me throughout our session as Heather. We spoke a length about
my need to express myself as Heather and the increasing suppression of this need by my
wife. I admitted to him my deep desire that if I was not afforded the opportunity to
be Heather except within the shrinking limits imposed by my wife, then I would have be
Heather all of the time. Over the next several sessions the topics of hormones and
their effects, loss of family, coming out to family, effects at work, effects on friends,
lifestyle changes, and a host of other topics were discussed.
Throughout these discussions Rusty maintained fully supportive of my desires.
However, having the experience, he was careful to interject with examples of both
successes and failures. He did not attempt to steer my decisions, but rather to
guide them and point out both the pitfalls and the rewards of such decisions.
After several months of counseling Rusty confided that he acknowledged my sincerity and
need to live my life as Heather. He told me that he would be willing to provide me
with the necessary referral to a colleague endocrinologist who would provide and oversee
the required administration of hormone therapy. Hormones were a decision that I made
unilaterally so as to soften and feminize my features and thereby facilitate the
transition and acceptance of Heather to the rest of the world.
Rusty then informed me that prior to such a referral one additional session with him was
required. Because of my situation, this session had to be a joint session with my
wife and myself present.
The next morning I informed my wife of my goals and desires and the steps that I had taken
to achieve these goals. Surprisingly the discussion that followed was not heated.
It did involve a lot of hugging and crying by both of us. In the end my wife
conceded that under no circumstances would I be allowed to remain in the house as Heather.
We had reached an impasse.
Several days passed with little or no discussion at all between my wife and me. The
next day when I got home from work my wife began to open up to me. She argued that
if I agreed not to live as Heather, I could dress in the house anytime I desired (as long
as my 15 year old son was not home). She would give me one weekend/month that I could go
to a motel and be Heather (no questions asked). She would allow me to go to
conferences such as Southern Comfort, and she would be willing to help me with makeup,
hair styling, and clothes. She had opened the door to my box!
I thought about her proposal for about a day and realized that if she was willing to make
such a sacrifice to save our family, then I should also be willing to sacrifice. I
accepted her proposal!
That Friday we both went to see Rusty. The session that followed was very
“wet” (crying and hugging by all of us). Rusty admitted that in all his
years he had never encountered such a turn-about as that displayed by my wife. He
cautioned both of us to be fair and honest with each other and if so, the prognosis for
the survival of our family appeared excellent.
The understanding, caring, and concern for my well being and that of my wife and family
displayed by Rusty throughout our sessions was more then words can describe. The
comfort that he provided will remain with me for the rest of my life. I will
continue to see Rusty (not as often) to give him updates on my acceptance of my family
“agreement”. I will also be looking to him to offer suggestions when bumps
in the road crop up and just to have someone to talk to that understands.
To date, my wife has lived up to all her promises and Heather is becoming comfortable with
her new, expanded freedoms.
Hugs to you all, Heather
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By Heather
From September 26 through September 30, 2000 I had the good fortune to attend the Southern
Comfort Conference (SCC) in Atlanta Ga. At this time I would like to take the
opportunity to share with you some of the experiences and feelings that I have brought
home with me.
It is only within the past year that I have expanded my commitment to my feminine side and
therefore SCC was the first conference of any kind that I have attended.
The first aspect SCC that I would like to discuss is the people. For the final event
of the conference (the Saturday night ball) over 700 girls (and guys) were in attendance.
This is the largest gathering of transgender people in one place in history.
These people represented the full spectrum of the transgender community, to
include; pre-op, post-op, CD, TV, transsexual, heterosexual, homosexual, F to M, and every
other combination that I might have omitted.
Over the course of the week I had the honor to meet many of these ladies. Our
greetings always began with a polite (and dainty) handshake and a hug (please bare in mind
that I am of Scotch – German ancestry and am not a “touchy – feely”
person). After our introduction we often discussed our unique (or so we thought)
situation. Within 10 minutes we were pouring out our life stories to each other and
hugging and crying with the joy that we had found each other. We established bonds
of friendship that I shall cherish for the rest of my life. As the week went on I
met more and more girls like (and some unlike) myself. Sometimes I would go out with
my old (new) friends and sometimes I would go out with my new (new) friends and sometimes
we would all go out together. The friendships that were initiated during this
conference are as deep and dear to me as friendships that I have maintained with other
individuals for over 50 years. I have fallen in love with my new friends because of
the gentleness and kindness that they have shown to me. I have realized that these
people liked and befriended Heather for the person that is Heather. I am starting to
cry (tears of joy!) with the memory of my friends and the moments that I shared with
them…allow me to pause and then move on to discuss another aspect of the conference.
Another aspect of SCC that touched me was the facilities, organization, and staff.
The hotel was five star in every aspect. The food was always superb. The
seminar rooms were always properly setup and ready. The hotel staff was always
considerate and kind (I will touch upon this later in my article).
The diversity of the seminars presented during the conference was staggering.
Everything from wig styling to medical insurance was offered. The instructors were
professional and well prepared, they had full command of their subjects. Each
seminar flowed efficiently to the next. Had the conference lasted three weeks (I
wish) I could not have participated in all the seminars that were offered. Through
participation in selected seminars I have gained a new appreciation and respect for the
complexity involved in presenting my feminine self. I have learned to handle myself
with poise and pride and to hold my head high (and keep my shoulders back, like a lady
should).
The SCC staff was a joy to behold. Seven hundred people, almost half of them
“first timers”, always asking questions, the work involved in the organization
of the event and the work involved in keeping events flowing were staggering.
Throughout it all, they took the time to learn the name of everyone in attendance, to
greet everyone with a smile (and a hug) and to always be available to solve those small
problems that arise at the most inopportune time during conventions. I love them all
and will not soon forget the effort that they put forth so that my individual experience
would be the perfect “dream come true” that, in fact, it was!
Permit me now to spend some time on the focus of the conference and the effect that it has
had on me. In a nutshell, the main message was to “GET INVOLVED”.
This message was brought home to me by one of our speakers at the Friday afternoon
luncheon. The speaker presented each of us with a pebble as we entered the dining
room. It was explained to us that if we were to take our pebble to a lake and throw
it in, we would create a small ripple. It would be hoped that maybe, someone would
see this ripple and realize that help was available, or maybe some uninformed member of
society would see the ripple and go to the library to become informed and more accepting
of us. In short, each of us could make a difference, but only if we throw or pebble
and make that first ripple.
The speaker did not stop there. It was now detailed as to what could happen in all
of us in the room (650) were to go to that same lake and throw in our pebbles at the same
time. Now we would witness a splash and a large wake that could flow all the way to
the far side of the lake. We would be a small public outcry…and we would be
heard! We can make a difference, but we must throw our pebbles into the lake.
However, the speaker was still not finished. There were 650 of us in the dining
room, but for each one of us at the conference there are thousands who were not present.
What if they too were given pebbles. What if we ALL went to the lake together
and threw our pebbles. Now we would create a tidal wave. We have the ability
to overcome public ignorance and foster public acceptance! We would also create a
wave that can be seen by our sisters who are seeking help and support and do not know
where to look.
The speaker’s words have touched me deeply. I have developed a commitment to
become involved. In short, I want to help! I should like to focus my attention
toward the youth in society. For those of us that are older, we can remember the
shame and loneliness that we endured for so many years before we finally found the support
that we desperately needed. God, if I could save just one person from the anguish
that I suffered for so long, my journey would have been worthwhile.
I would like to conclude this part of my presentation with a plea to anyone who reads this
document. Please tell me how I can help…What can I do? My commitment is
deep but my knowledge is shallow. Please help me to help others.
I shall conclude my reflections with a short note about a particular experience that I had
during the conference that seems to stand out from the rest.
During the conference I stayed in a motel situated right next to the main hotel (where
most of the activities were taking place). My motel offered a free cocktail hour
(beer and wine only) from 5:30 – 6:30 every evening. It became my routine to
stop in each evening on my way to my evening activities for a glass of beer. The
cocktail hour was never highly populated and I ended up spending most of my time (15
minutes) each evening making small talk with the girl (GG) serving the refreshments.
We talked about nothing in particular, just where I might be going that evening or
what I had done during the day. I never went into my life’s story with her.
On Sunday morning after I had checked out of my motel I walked to the breakfast
area (same area where cocktails were served in the evening) to get a donut and coffee
“for the road”. At this time I was no longer dressed (promise to my wife).
The same girl from the evening was there serving the breakfast. I said hello
to her and picked up a donut. She looked hard and long at me but did not say
anything. I turned to the other counter to pour my cup of coffee. While I was
pouring I felt a tapping on my shoulder. I turned around and saw that it was the
serving girl. She asked me “are you Heather?” and “are you
leaving?” I answered yes to both her questions. She then leaped up and
hugged and kissed me and began to cry. I too began to cry as we hugged and talked
for the next 15 minutes. She had known me as only as Heather and yet she befriended
me. She had demonstrated to me that Heather is a person and has the ability to make
friends both within and outside the transgender community. I love this girl dearly,
she is my friend, and yet, I don’t even know her name!
My 10 hour drive home from the conference became for me yet another memorable experience.
I spent the entire time crying in joy and in sadness for the experience and
memories that will stay with me for the rest of my life. Although I was not dressed
as I made that drive home, I was more Heather at that time then I have ever before been.
Thank you SCC (“I shall return”).
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All the makeup on earth will not make a male look female without a great wig or hair style. Here are a few of the considerations you must make when choosing a wig or hair style (for those so fortunate to have enough of their own). The very best way to find the right wig for you is to go to a wig shop that has a true professional working there. Yes, that's right, there are sales people and there are fashion/cosmetic pros. Whether you shop in person or on the internet you must know what to look for and how to choose a wig yourself. The first consideration is color.
CHOOSE THE RIGHT COLOR THE FIRST TIME
When considering the purchase of a wig by mail order, the best way to get a reasonably accurate color match is to send a sample of your hair, or of another wig you have. A hair sample at least a pencil’s width is needed for an accurate color interpretation. All good wig companies have color rings from each wig company they deal with, and can determine your color as close a possible from your hair sample. If you are purchasing human hair or a human hair blend wig, they may offer custom coloring services. Communicate with the company. If you desire to have a color other than your natural color, and many of us do, tell the company what you'd like to do and they should be able to suggest a solution. Don't try to match a color from an internet ad, they are just not accurate enough colors. It would be good tom know a little about how colors are matched.
Wig colors are determined from color sample rings provided by each
individual manufacturer. A color ring is a group of hair swatches of the pre-determined
colors which are used by each wig manufacturer to represent the different shades in which
its hairgoods are available. Each swatch is attached to a small plastic disk with a number
on it, and these disks are usually attached to some kind of ring to keep them together.
The vast majority of wig manufacturers today use the J&L color standard for both human
hair and synthetic hairgoods. There are certain universal colors with were determined long
ago when the wig business was new. This is called the J&L color standard, and the
colors are similar on swatch rings from companies who use this standard.
The colors are represented by number from 1 on up. Examples: 1 is jet black, 8 is light
brown, 16 is honey blonde, 30 is light auburn, 44 is salt and pepper grey, 60 is white,
18/22 is ash blonde frost, etc. With most manufacturers, a / between the numbers means
that the color is frosted with both colors in 50-50 ratio. If the color has a - such as
16-8, it usually means that the lighter color is lightly sprinkled through the darker
color, either in the front or throughout the wig, creating a subtle highlight. The factory
which processes the human hair or makes the synthetic fiber produces flat, unblended
colors like black, browns, reds, blondes, and even yellows, greens and blues in many
different shades. Also different fibers can vary in color. The finished colors from which
a company creates their color selection are a blend of different shades.
Example: #8 light brown on one color ring might be lighter or darker, warmer or more
ash-toned, than the same number on another company’s ring. In other words, although a
company may use the J&L standard, each company has its own blend of shades it uses in
order to personalize its own product. In addition, companies may have special blends or
colors which are unique to them, such as various highlighted and rooted color
combinations. So that unless one uses the color ring to determine a company’s
particular selection, it would be difficult to get an exact color match for yourself.
Okay, don't get too hung up on this, we can use a range of colors and are not locked into
a color so exactly. The next important consideration is size.
WHAT SIZE CAP DO YOU NEED?
The way a wig fits your head is a very
important point. A good comfortable fit is necessary if one is to wear a wig for an
extended period of time. If the wig is uncomfortable, you won’t wear it. It’s
that simple.
To measure your head for a wig, take a cloth tape measure and be sure that it has not been
stretched. If you’re not sure, measure it against a metal or plastic one for
accuracy. Then follow the instructions below. You need all four measurements if you need
or desire a custom fitted.
CIRCUMFERENCE: Start the tape at the
middle of your hairline (or where it would be if you had a full head of hair) at the
forehead. Run the tape back to the nape hairline (behind the ears) and around the head
where it will meet back at the front. This is the main measurement, corresponding to where
the wig band will run.
EAR TO EAR: Lay the end of the tape about ½ inch above the little crease at the top of
your ear between your ear and your head. Then bring the tape across the top of your head
to the other ear at the same point.
FRONT TO BACK: From the front hairline to the back hairline. If you have little or no
hair, lay your index, third and ring fingers flat against your forehead just above your
brow bone. At the top of your fingers would be a likely starting place. Lay the end of the
tape at
this point and measure back to about an inch below the little (occipital) bone that sticks
out at the bottom of your skull.
TEMPLE TO TEMPLE: Start the tape just in front of your ear. Measure the distance across
your forehead hairline to the other ear at the same point.
ULTRA PETITE SIZES are 19 inches to 20 inches. There are pre-made wigs
which will work for this size, but most are either children’s styles or
shorter-length adult styles. There are pre-made high-quality synthetic and human hair
prostheses which will fit these sizes, but they must be custom styled by a professional.
PETITE SIZES are 20 inches to 21 inches. Again, there are wigs which are available for
these sizes. Most wigs can be sized down to fit these measurements without having the cap
custom made. If the word "petite" is included in the name of the wig, chances
are that the cap size is petite.
AVERAGE SIZES are 21 inches to 22½ inches. Most wigs are made to fit these sizes, but can
be stretched or adjusted down about an inch either way to accommodate smaller or larger
head sizes. Be aware that cap sizes vary from brand to brand, and you should make sure
before you buy that the cap is right for your size. Some caps will stretch better than
others, but all can be made smaller.
LARGE SIZES are 22½ inches to 24 inches. The best choices for these sizes are JACQUELYN
wigs. Most of them are made for the average to large size head, and the cap is more
flexible than most other brands. A stock Jacquelyn can usually be stretched to accommodate
a 24-inch head comfortably.
CUSTOM SIZES: If your head circumference is smaller than 19 inches or larger than 24
inches, you may need to order a custom made cap. There are various companies that make
wigs to accommodate this size range. However, if you want a style that is normally
available only in an average size, ask if you can have it made in your size.
What Style is best for me?
The last question. You know what you'd like to look like, but will it
work. Generally the shape of your face is all you need to know. Styles should
accentuate your best facial features, while minimizing your less-than-flattering features.
Here's how to determine your facial shape.
1. Pull hair back and secure with pins or a headband so hair is completely
off the face.
2. Stand 12" from a mirror and look straight into it -- or have someone take a
picture of you facing straight into the camera with your hairline showing.
3. Outline your face with a marker on the mirror with tracing paper, or on the photo.
4. Now look at your face shape in the mirror or photo drawing. Choose the shape that most
closely resembles your own. If your face is a combination of shapes, choose styles based
on the following criteria, which most flatter your particular shape.
OVAL
FACE----Oval is considered by many to be the ideal and most versatile face shape, since
nearly every style looks becoming on this facial shape. Hair pulled back or worn in an
updo shows off the oval face the most. In long styles, a great classic look is a center or
side part with hair touching shoulders. The short-layered looks with curls and a close
extended nape focus on this oval. Are you this lucky?
ROUND
FACE----This shape is round at the cheeks and a has a circular form.There is more of the
face near the ears and gradually less curving upward and downward. The goal: to slim your
face. Hair below the chin line should be worn with a face-lengthening center part; for
hair above chin line, wear an off-center part to interrupt the roundness. Height at the
crown and a bare forehead lengthen and slim the face. It's best to avoid short and
sleeked-back hairstyles. In short-angled styles, you are best seen with hair brushed away
from the face, building extra crown height to narrow the roundness of your features.
Though bangs shorten the face, you can wear curly, tousled bangs or a soft wispy fringe .
Always avoid full, straight-falling bangs. Wear longer styles closer to the face to give
length.
SQUARE
FACE---- This face is characterized by an angular jaw and square brow, with jaw and brow
being nearly the same width. The goal: soften the sharp angle of jawline and minimize
squared-off brow. Hairstyles which emphasize the cheekbones mid-line of the face are most
flattering. Bangs and waves at the temple also soften the square. Wear your best styles
with hair swinging forward onto the face to reduce the angles. Hair length is best about
1-1/2" below the chin, or extending to shoulder length to reduce and soften the
squareness of your jaw. Hair worn on the forehead is always perfect for you, as long as it
is wispy or fringed. Never wear straight bangs. Hair turned under at the bottom also will
narrow the width of the jaw. Styles in loose curls and waves add extra dimension to the
square face.
PEAR-SHAPED
FACE ----This shape has a wide chin and a narrow forehead. The goal: narrow the chin and
widen the forehead. Wear your hair wide and full at the top of the head and temples,
brushed away from the face and up toward the ear to widen forehead; from the ear, angle
hair forward toward the chin to soften and narrow a strong jaw. Styles which are wide and
full at the chin will emphasize the width of the jawline, and should be avoided. The wedge
styles, which are brushed away from the face and give width at the forehead are perfect
for this facial shape.
HEART
SHAPED FACE---- This is a triangular-shaped face. This face is narrow at the jaw line,
wider at the eye line, cheek bones and even more at the brow line. The goal: diminish
forehead width and create a wider, fuller jaw effect. Soft bangs flatter this shape,
whether curly or smoother. Or wear a side part with soft three-quarter bangs swept over
one side to balance your forehead width. The styles should be fuller at the jaw line.
Upswept at the sides and off the forehead further emphasize your feminine appeal . A
medium length to mid-neck is your best look. Fullness at the bottom, with hair directed
forward onto the cheeks gives you the appearance of a wide chin. The soft layered bob
styles are ideal. Or if you prefer, curls or loose waves, shaped from the ears down, add
width and fullness to your chin.
OBLONG
FACE----This shape is long and thin, often with a chin that tends to look pointed. There
is very little difference in width between the top, middle or bottom of your face but it
is more rounded than the square face. Hairstyles should add width and fullness to the
sides of the face and around the eyes, cheekbones and ears. This shape benefits from a low
side part, with a sweep of hair brushed across the forehead and secured with a comb. The
look of volume with an asymmetric flow of hair to one side widens your face and reduces
length. Straight-falling bangs or bangs blended with the sides of your hair, shorten the
overall face length. Your best hair length reaches to the middle of the neck. Favor volume
with curly or wavy styles that are very becoming, giving you the illusion of balanced
width. Wide curly bob styles are ideal for this shape.
REMEMBER...your hairstyle is a frame for your face. Your best/worst
features should be enhanced/minimized by your hairstyle. Because the OVAL face is the
ideal, your most flattering hairstyle will be as close as possible to creating the
illusion of an OVAL shape. Now go find that great wig and look marvelous. More on wigdom
later.
Bask in your loveliness until next month darlings,
Bobbi Jean
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