WE are the “connecticuT View” (cTView), TG members who like to dress in femme clothes. We joined because we wanted to know, ‘we were not alone’. The first time one dresses, they feel they are the only one who does this. But as time goes on, they realize others do also, but they don’t know who they are.  By joining a group such as ours, you get the comfortable feeling that you are not alone.

By reading our Member Directory you see our bios , pictures and ads of all the members and you get a sense of identity and belonging. You might even see that there are others like you who live in the same town or the one next to you.

By attending a meeting you get the feeling of camaraderie and friendship for now it is real…you have met another person like yourself, and you now have someone you can talk to and who understands you. Possibly you might get some insight that you didn’t have.  The decision to step forward and join a group is a big one. But after you realize than no one gets information about you than what you give the other members in your bio, you feel secure. Better yet, you only give your e-address and City/State, not your home address, and just think about it…that’s not enough for anyone to recognize you.  We have existed for 12 years and have never had a confidentiality breach.

You can be a member and never leave the confines of your home. After all, the closet is comfortable, and just being a computer member is more comfortable. BUT Boring! I am sure you wish you did more than dress and hide in your room, cellar, motel room. Well, this is the opportunity to do just that. Our meeting place is large, comfortable, and SAFE. Please read the page called “Meetings”, which will explain our facilities. 

We do understand that being an active member can be difficult. The primary reason is probably, "my family doesn't know."  If he’s married, he hasn’t shared his secret with his wife. If he’s not married, he hasn’t shared his secret with his family or live in friends. Others might have told their significant others but there is unacceptance and friction, so the TV hides his secret and stays in the closet. But, is any of this good???

Personally, I feel it’s best not to lie to your wife, and sharing your secret might get you acceptance. Many can have a better life if they had a heart to heart talk with their spouse or girl friend. I know that there are MANY TVs who have very accepting wives. Why is this? Well, the main reason is acceptance. The woman realizes that her husband likes femme clothes and rationalizes and says to herself, “what’s so wrong with this”? There might be lots of other reasons, but rather than spend another page about it, we have psychotherapists who can counsel you and your wife/girl friend.  Of those who have acceptance, I wish they would express themselves more by going out and enjoying their femme life. It would be a shame if a TG person always stayed in their closet and never enjoyed their femme life.

The first step would be to attend a very safe meeting, at which everyone is the same…men in femme attire. There you can get your confidence, get some tips, learn about who you are and just enjoy a nice night out with the girls. From that, you can enjoy going to the movies, going to dinner, going shopping  possibly with others or with your wife. Yes, we have many members who do all of these things and more. Fly in airplanes, work en femme, get hormones for breast development etc. Yes, we also have an Endocrinologist who is a member and can counsel you on hormone therapy.  So you see, life is bigger than a closet. But it’s up to you to decide how large you want your life to be. I can say that everyone was scared to death the first time they ‘came out’, but now they laugh at how silly they were.  Life is not easy, but it’s only as difficult as you make it 
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As for the cTView, we are a social and support group. We accept everyone with no prejudice. From my best estimate, we have members from the mid 20’s to late 70’s with our average age being around 45-60. I know that’s not much of an estimate, but since we don’t ask personal questions about you, this is an estimate from what is volunteered.  We are adults, and we want to be treated that way. We won’t accept drugs or excessive alcohol, or overt arguments. We ask that everyone dress properly. This means that unless we have a fetish night, we ask you don’t wear leathers and chains, nor wedding gowns. A simple skirt and blouse, slacks and sweater, dress or sweat suit is very acceptable. Most of our girls wear makeup and wigs, some have their own long hair, very few don’t wear makeup at all.  And if you want to visit just wearing your boy clothes, that's ok too. We are there to help.

If someone has a question, I am sure someone has an answer. The best part is, we are FREE. Yes, we have proven that there is no need to charge someone $25,-$50 a year just to join a club. We are unique and innovative. We have an electronic club which costs you nothing. You get several e-mail contacts a month about events or necessary contact information, plus you get a monthly newsletter which is recorded and saved for 6 months on our website, plus you get the complete membership directory  names, e-addresses, bios and many pictures. Who doesn’t like looking at pictures.

The only charge you have is, $5. per meeting. But this is great too, because only those who attend a meeting pay, and those who don’t attend don’t pay membership dues for staying at home.  We have existed since 1982-1992, and again from 1994 to now. So you might say we are the premier TG club in Connecticut., and maybe the entire Northeast. My background goes back to the Hartford TVIC club back in the ‘60-‘70’s…so we have a lot of knowledge. We have given $3150. to Hartford Children Hospital for Cancer Research, and $500. to the 9-11 cause.  If I have missed anything, I encourage you to write to any of the officers.

We hope you will join us and attend our meeting/s. We are there for YOU !